Dating for newly divorced women
So weight-loss shouldn’t necessarily be anyone’s goal. The problem is that a lot of women will go all-out on cardio and never do any weight lifting because they don’t want to get big muscles. You would need to have the intention to put on muscle to put on enough muscle to appear abnormally muscle-y.
So don’t fear putting on muscle – a little bit of muscle actually looks good on women.
He’s a recent widower (wife died of cancer in June 2010.) We started dating just after Labor Day. We live about an hour and 1/2 apart and he has a very high level job and a big house to take care of (and a dog.) There has been no sex yet but lots of “foreplay.” He says he always waits to have sex until he’s more sure of the woman.
I want to see more of him at this point (3 months,) especially on Saturday nights.
The good news for women out there is that the supposed ideal weight you’re aiming for might be significantly lower than what a man would consider ideal.My question is this – does this apply to widowers as well or is it fair to give him a little more time and just get busy with other things so I don’t put pressure on him?He says he has always taken it slow in dating and this is nothing new.(This study and others can be found in The Evolution of Desire by David M Buss) Now I am not saying go cancel your gym membership and eat a tub of ice cream on the couch.Weight means your entire body weight – muscle, organs, fat, water, etc. Fit means that you have a low body fat percentage (for women, having a body fat percentage in the lower 20s is good).
But this is the norm for widowers –for one of two reasons: either the marriage itself wasn’t that healthy and he was immediately ready to move on, OR, like men of a certain age, he put everything had into his marriage and nothing into any other relationships. As such, you are presumably the first woman he’s been with for many years.