Dating expectations men
Albert Einstein once said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Invariably, they’re both disappointed.” Men and women have completely different expectations of marriage.
Men may be slower to arrive at the altar, but once there, they’re typically good to go.
The kind of equality women have been taught to embrace suggests men and women are interchangeable, and they are not.
A marriage can be reasonably fair—I say “reasonably” because nothing in life is fair, to anyone—without husbands and wives living identical lives. To make it work, we would no doubt divvy up the tasks associated with the business. Raising a family requires a myriad of tasks that are impossible for one person to do alone successfully.
I decided to quit work and find myself in that ultra-female field, social work. Once I'd given up power at work, I found what I thought was new power in being the perfect girlfriend. And I felt powerful, because soon I had a big diamond ring and people afforded me a new kind of respect I had never felt before.
Freed (temporarily) from the pressures of power dynamics and office politics, more than once I thought, "Being a wife and caregiver is what I was meant for -- this feels right." And my boyfriend enjoyed the dinners and the fact that I did his laundry.
When I was 25 and chosen to head an all-male team at a successful dot-com company, I could not accept my power.
This indulgence is something I have returned to several times through the years, especially when things felt tough at work.Once the initial phase of the relationship has passed, people realize they need a lot more than romance to keep it going. There is no man you can fall in love with for whom this will not be your fate.Let me repeat that, because it’s so important: There is no man you can fall in love with for whom this will not be your fate.Being capable of doing the same things does not mean you both to do the same things. How much work you or your husband do on the home front depends upon several factors, such as which one of you is home more.Whoever’s home more often—whoever works fewer hours, in other words—is going to do more of the work at home. But once you accept that marriage isn’t designed to make you happy, it frees you up to focus on what something to address.
So much of what is wrong with feminism has to do with the labeling.