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For just about everybody, the rush, the ecstasy, the high…it eventually goes away.
And what you’re left with is a friendship that needs to withstand failure and temptation, financial ruin and sickness.
Of course, that blindness wears off, which is why, when you talk to older couples who have been married for 30 years, they’ll almost always tell you some version of “It’s hard work/We’re really just best friends/We know how to communicate and argue well/We support each other when it’s tough.” Etc, etc….
A favorite cliché says, “It’s not that my partner is perfect, it’s that she’s perfect for me.” We are willing to overlook all sorts of things when we’re in love.
There are probably many, many more flaws that you glossed over due to your passion for her. In fact, Helen Fisher theorizes in “Why We Love” that being “in love” may be an evolutionary function that causes irrational thinking.
In other words, in order to commit to something as irrational as monogamy, we’d sure has hell BETTER be blinded by love.
I’d appreciate it…If you don’t have something specific to say to your ex you could simply share how, when and where your breakup happened.This explains a phenomenon like battered wives, who stay because even though their husbands hit them, they always claim to love them as well.Personally, I’ve put up with women who were selfish, delusional, inconsistent, unemployed, mean-spirited, jealous, and bad in bed.Sometimes I did this because I was weak and needy and just wanted someone in my life.Other times I did this because I was so enamored that her bad qualities barely even registered. And I had that feeling twice and they both dumped me, too.
Whatever it is your feeling, whoever you are, wherever you are, someone else is feeling it too.