Competition and interpersonal conflict in dating relationships
When you’re single, you can buy whatever you want, whenever you want, with little regard for the future.
It’s not necessarily wise, but you’re the only one who has to pay the consequences.
Relationships aren’t only about being happy, and there’s lots of times when you won’t and even shouldn’t be.
Being able to rely on someone even when you’re upset, miserable, depressed, or grieving is a lot more important than being happy all the time.
”) While this might make things easier in the short term, in the long run it gradually erodes the foundation of the relationship away.
This is an increasing problem these days, because more and more people are opting to keep their finances separate, even when they’re married.
There’s nothing wrong with that kind of arrangement in and of itself, but it demands Nobody in a truly happy partnership is afraid of breaking up.
If you depend on your partner — that is, if you absolutely cannot live without her or him — you’ve crossed that line.
The pressure is now on your partner to fill whatever’s missing in you — a pressure s/he will learn to resent.
If you can’t listen that way, at least to the person you love, there’s a problem.